
GRIEF: "IS REACHING OUT FOR SOMEONE WHO'S
ALWAYS BEEN THERE,
ONLY TO FIND WHEN YOU NEED THEM THE MOST, ONE LAST TIME, THEY'RE
GONE."
GRIEF:
The death of a loved one is life's most painful event. People's
reactions to death remain one of society's least understood and most off-limits
topics for discussion. Oftentimes, grievers are left totally alone in
dealing with their pain, loneliness, and isolation.
Grief is a natural emotion that follows
death. It hurts. Sadness, denial, guilt, physical discomfort, and sleeplessness are
some of the symptoms of grief. It is like an open wound which must
become healed. At times, it seems as if this healing will never happen. While some
of life's spontaneity begins to return, it never seems to get back to the
way it was. It is still incomplete. We know, however, that these feelings
of being incomplete can disappear.
Healing
is a process of allowing ourselves to feel, experience, and accept the
pain. In other words, we give ourselves permission to heal. Allowing ourselves to
accept these feelings is the beginning of that process.
The healing process can take much less time than we have been led to
believe. There are two missing parts. One is a safe, loving, professionally guided
atmosphere in which to express our feelings; the other is knowing how and what
to communicate.